Check out my maintenance thread. I am at 66,300 on my 2020 HAH as of today. You can see a lot of the normal maintenance things I have done that you too can do on your own.
My car has been to the dealership only once since I bought it and that was for its first oil change. I don't know at what mileage I will ever step back in the dealership for any future service. My car is at top notch condition.
As for brake pads, I have heard a lot that the hybrid brakes should last easy over 100K. I very rarely ever have need for my brakes hence I rarely use them and so I hope my brake pads need change only after like 150k or maybe over 200k.
Dealerships are hurting now for money. So, I do not blame them giving you such a list. Not everybody has time or interest to do maintenance at home like some of us. So, the dealership will do them for you at a premium cost since they have a business to run and employees to pay.